I know it’s going to be very tough to home school, with no experience with kids before. But I want to try it. I am not going to lose this opportunity. I have to try and am willing to try. I keep telling myself these sentences whenever I find I have a doubt in my mind about the ways to handle my toddler.
I sure know that kids get into your hair and that is why many parents chose to send their children to schools and workshops and residential schools. They do not even want to try. They give up from the time their kids are born. With the colic and the teething trouble that lasts for about two yrs from birth, parents have lost their patience and want to spend some…………..err………….lots of time away from that little menace.
Some couples these days don’t opt for children because they feel that they aren’t yet ready for that little lump of flesh and I completely respect their choice for choosing not to have a kid. What’s the use of shallow love towards the kid later? And the child will someday, before his teens realise that he is pretty much ignored and was actually unwanted, but due to the pressures of the family elders and the moral police its parents chose to have it. So precisely it is sadly glad that it wasn’t aborted due to its parents love for it but out of a forceful resentful compulsion.
First of all you need to love your child as much as you love yourself and try to elevate it in all respects.
In an average Indian school the student –teacher ratio is 60:1. With this bad figure and a noisy class how does the teacher interact with the kid?
The students come from all sorts of backgrounds in a particular school, some students are pampered children of their parents, some are the opposite, and they are beaten, taunted and compared with other kids.
The children are overworked and in the urban areas kids from class 1st-4th, study for around 5 hours in the school i.e. excluding the recess, the prayer assembly and the transport from home to school. That would make it about 6-7 hours, this is the time spent in school.
After the school the kids are compelled to go to the tuitions for subjects like Hindi and Marathi. This is for the parents who are not fluent with these languages. As the child grows the maths, science, social studies and the languages go tougher, so it is very likely that a child will go to two tuitions minimum-for languages and science and maths.
Some parents are well versed with the subjects and prefer that their children aren’t sent to tuitions, so they make sure that the child practices at home. That would be another 3-4 hours.
It’s worse for the children going to tuitions, for they have home-works from the school plus home-works from their tuitions, so that also adds up to 3-4 hours.
Then considering that all parents want to make their children Indian idols and boogie woogiers, they send their children to extracurricular activities, singing and dancing classes, so these two things constitute two hours weekly and then the list doesn’t stop there, there’s painting, yoga, martial arts, swimming, skating………
So basically your child has to pursue an extracurricular activity every day, no breaks!
So adding it all up, taking upper limit for school to be 7 hours + tuitions and homework, 4 hours + extracurricular activities 2 hours = 13 hours is just the time that they are busy with, I have not included the time to memorise yet…
Please these kids fall in an age group of 5-9 years and they shouldn’t saturate. Let them enjoy the extracurricular activities more, and let them explore more with trips to the museum, aquarium, planetarium, stadiums, national parks, zoos, mountains, forts, beaches, islands, caves……
Please please it’s not over kids; more horror is in store……..you have to grow up and you’ll find yourself tied by your parents, teachers, and your peers. Soon in a few years you will hop like a grasshopper from school-tuition, you’ll find yourself studying for 15 hours, the time will pass by ticking away every second to bring the gloomy tensed times upon you.
Plus, that is not all; they need to memorise for their exams. Remember those chronological orders in history, the science formulas, the geometric theorems, the civics, and the longitudinal and latitudinal locations of specific countries, the phrases, clauses and figures of speech in Language……………………oh and in Hindi and Marathi we had “patra lekhan“………………..These are real nightmares.
Was all that compulsion necessary? I don’t even remember those theorems, the chronological order and the Kipp’s apparatus, the Blast furnace ………..!
Well I have been betrayed by a good number of friends, and I too have gone though that stabbing heartbreak, weeks and months I didn’t know how to cope? I found out at several instances that the people whom I called friends were gossiping about me, and they never wanted to share much with me. I wish my school taught me more about meditation, yoga and ways to deal with emotional setbacks. How to manage your time, anger, and how to deal with external pressures were never included in the curriculum. But alas, there is no such school in the entire world!
I also find elder people fighting with their spouses all the time, playing the blame game and people fretting over the spent money on a hospitalised relative; I wish these could be schooled. What’s the use of a school that doesn’t teach you anything except a LITTLE TIT-BIT OF ALL THINGS?
These all and many other things make me go ahead with the concept of homeschooling?
Is it going to be worth it? We have to wait & find out….